I’m a sworn believer of imperfection.
For me there’s nothing perfect around me. Everything around me can be improved by me or by someone else. Even this world is not perfect and more than billion people are trying to make this world perfect, but I can’t see that happening, because no matter how better you are at something there are people who know which pieces to remove or add to make it more better.
When I was 5 years old due to some reason my left eye got infected and because of that I was not able to see things clearly with my left eye. After long sessions with different doctors I ended up on wearing glasses for whole 3 years. That was truly heart breaking for me, now I’m more imperfect.
If I remember correctly then my first glasses was a combination of white and silver color which made me look like a fool, but that’s was something I can’t avoid if I want to gain my visibility back.
To save myself from bullying I created a story of “My lazy eye”. Whenever a classmate made fun of my glasses, they have to listen to the lazy eye story. I spoke with little sadness in my voice, and with a little shaky voice that I still occasionally hear in myself. And when I hear it, I smile and remember the child who did not see his body as imperfect because of glasses, who did not see his classmate’s teasing as other than curiosity off knowing something.
Since my middle school, I have learned to see the imperfection. And I regularly see it and relearn things. Every time I pick up any book from my shelf I learn something, and then I put it back from where I picked it up so the order in my book shelf don’t break. Every time I open my closet, I end up on organizing my clothes. Everywhere perfection glares.
My dad use to say, “It doesn't matter how you do things, what matters is you do it or not.” I may not understand him perfectly but I think he is saying, “Don’t sweat it and just give it a shot.” I believe in imperfection, because if I don’t then there’s no way I can write my stories, my poems, play my piano, my violin, and cook meals. I believe in imperfection that’s why I run for perfection, because imperfection invites me to step up to a challenge.
My English teacher says, “Hang up your worst written story on the wall, not just your good ones. You learn more from your worst written story than you learn from your best.” Perfection or improvement risks failure simply requires failure. Improvement thrives on exploration, mistakes, and chiseling.
When I was kid my favorite books were jokes book. Jokes are often based on imperfection. Most humor arises from where logic and common sense stops working.
Let me put it on test.
A joke: Do you know why flutters always try to close the holes with their fingers? They are trying to stop the voice from leaking.
Two year ago, on a bad occasion my left eye started to pain me again so I went to see a doctor to find out that I don’t have to bear that cruel fate again. After a checkup doctor said, “It’s just a normal infection so you don’t have to worry about it, but it would be best if you take care of your eyes and put them on ease for a while.” He clearly pointed out that I keep myself away from computer for few days if I want to feel better, which means no writing. I said, “There’s a saying doctor, if you take writing out of a writer then you take out the soul of a writer and then writer dies.” For your record I want to live because there’s too much for me to say.
Doctor, I’m a writer, I feed on words so how can I stop writing for a whole week?
How good I need to feel? That’s a question even you and myself can’t answer. I can always feel good if I want to no matter how many imperfections are around me. It’s my pick either feel good or down, and I’d love to pick good.
I believe in imperfection and I struggle with imperfection so that I can remove that IM from imperfection, but I can’t see that happening soon so I need to keep struggling. I know my writing is not perfect but I know it’ll be someday and to see that day all I need to do is keep writing and struggling.
“The journey for perfection always begins with imperfection.”
Perfectness is boring while imperfectness holds the beauty and reason to move on.
I would like to travel the road of imperfection to become a perfect writer then directly being a perfect writer, because if I do that then there’s no fun and most importantly its boring, just like a story with no emotion in it.
In 3 years I’ve dealt with many imperfection of writing and I keep chiseling them away for more shine. And here’s how I did it?
“Inspiration is not what you need to start your story, what you truly need to start your story is story.”
Many writer says I can’t write because I’m not inspired or I lost my inspiration, but the real reason is deep down they don’t want to write that’s why they are making excuses. If you got keen eyes then you’ll see that inspiration is all around you, you just need to look around little. For example, a painter always know where the beauty lies, where he can find what he wants to paint because for a painter this world is full of beautiful things to paint. Same goes to writer, there are tons of words all you need to know is the sequence to put them together.
There’s a saying, “If you really want to do it then you’ll find a way to do it, if you don’t then you’ll find a perfect excuse.”
I think you got the idea of what I’m trying to convey. It’s not the inspiration that makes you a writer; it’s your talent and heart. Put your heart together then you will find world’s most beautiful story in front of your eyes.
“I don’t need inspiration to write, what I need is passion and love for writing.”
Don’t Act Cocky
“The less you know, the more you want to show off.”
In my starting days of writing I used to pour everything into my piece, instead of making it a specific dish I mistakenly always turn it into a soup of everything I know.
Don’t stop. laugh, even I’m laughing like an idiot thinking that how stupid I was. But it’s ok, because it was my stupidity that made me wise.
Try not to imitate my mistake that I made 3 years ago. Try not to show off when you are writing. Don’t dump extra into your story just to prove that you know something more, because that will make your readers cry in pain.
“Knowledge is not showing what you know; knowledge is sharing the answers of people’s questions.”
The more you dump into your story to show off how much you know then you are building a wall between you and your readers which is hard to break and after certain time it’ll be impossible.
Writing is not about showing off how smart you are, writing is about letting your heart run free.
No one wants to know how much you know. What they really want to know is why your character is suffering so much, why your story is wetting their eyes, why the happy moments in your story giving them happiness, why they wish to be the main character of your story.
Lead the Reader To Read The Rest
“To me, the greatest pleasure of writing is not what it’s about; it’s the rhythm of each word that I write.”
A good story is a story which grabs the attention of a reader from the first page. In those few hundred words you’ve to convince your reader that you are reading something unique, something that will change the way you think, something that will make your life better, something that will make you wise, sad, and laugh.
The first few lines are like road map to your readers to show where they are going, if they don’t like the destination then you’ll lose your reader.
Make sure your lede lines are hook, because if not then your post is going to get ignored completely. I’m sure you don’t want that, you wish to see readers reading your complete story so make sure you write in rhythm.
You know a broken piece of glass also shines same like a diamond in the sun light, and if in sudden you caught the glimpse of it then I’m sure you’ll travel the distance to see that it’s diamond or not. Same goes to writing; if you got the attention of your readers in start then they will read your story till the end.
“If start is not good then there’s no chance that the ending is going to be good, because no one will stick to see the ending.”
A bad start also defines bad ending.
“I’ll listen to you depending on how you speak and what you speak.”
A true writer only writes what’s important and writes it in such a way that people like to read it without losing interest. It same like a wise man speak because he have something to say, but a fool speak because he have to say something.
I hope you’re aiming to be the wise writer not the fool one. Don’t write your word in old fashioned way like without putting any emotion in it because if what you are doing is just putting the words together then you are not a writer, because anyone holds enough talent to do that. Be creative and try to write it in your own voice without lecturing your readers, because your readers are not there to listen you lecturing they are there to listen to your story, so try to sound like one.
“What I care is not the words, it’s the emotion and meaning that they carries.”
Stick To Your Reason
“As long as you stick to the reasons you’ll have the courage to move on, no matter in what mess you are.”
Make sure you stick to the reasons like why you are writing your story. Everything you include in your story or in your blog post should have some sort of reason to be there, because if not then what you are doing is not writing, it’s like dumping everything you know at one place.
There a saying which goes like this, “A writer knows almost every word that exists in this world but when he starts writing the words he need for his story starts disappearing.”
But if you know the reason of your story then you’ve everything in your hands, you can write clearly without any worrying. If you don’t know why you are writing, what you are writing then you’ll never know how you are going to write.
“It’s your reasons for writing that makes your story different from others.”
Paint Pictures In Your Story
“I’d rather be the sad part of your story that you remember, rather than the sugary part that you forgot.”
You know what I like most about reading is I try to replace the main character by myself so that I can have the fun he is having, I can shed the tears he’s shedding, I can feel the pain he’s feeling. I think almost every reader likes to visualize what he’s reading, because it helps to understand the story more clearly and makes reading fun thing to do.
Try to paint pictures in your story where reader gets involved emotionally. For example,
Standing in the cold night under the hazy sky, the breeze is blowing and from above the moon is blessing me with little light to see the face that shines in my eyes. The moment is historic because I’m about to open my heart, I’m about to confess my first love, but I was afraid too, afraid of losing her. The fear in my heart shadowed my feelings and I was about to quit, then a star falls right in front of me, giving me what I needed the hope and courage to whisper the words that my heart wanted my tongue to speak.
I said, “I like you. If you don’t have feelings for anyone, then fall in love with me. I’m not asking you to fall for me right away. Fall in love with me and I’ll treasure you my whole life, because once you said those 3 words, words that will make my heart race then you will be my life, losing you would be like losing my life, and I don’t want to lose my life what I want is to spend it with you and make it worthwhile so that I can die with a beautiful smile. I love you.”
She cried, and said, “That’s what I wanted to hear from you for this whole time and you took your sweet time to say those 3 words, but I’m glad you finally said it because it’s too painful to love someone from shadow, I know it because I did it. I love you.”
So you got dragged into it or not. If yes then that’s what I was trying to convey.
Where to Put Comma
“Never miss a good chance to put a comma in your sentence.”
You know there’s a good rule in speaking that almost every professional speaker follows, and the rule is, “The clearer your voice is the more clear your points will be.” I think same can go for writing too, because the more clear your sentences will be the easier it will be for readers to read and understand.
The main purpose of commas in your sentence is to make them clear and provide small break. But the issue is too many commas can ruin your story or few can make it worst so the only option you’ve is to be as accurate as you can be.
Few rules to melt the ice:
1- Use commas to break or separate the elements in a series. For example, “He hit the ball, dumped the bat, and ran as fast as he can.”
2- Use commas with a conjunction to connect the sentences. For example, “He hit the ball, but fielder caught it in mid air.”
3- Use commas for self quoted sentences.
4- Use commas to avoid confusion.
5- Use commas to make sentence simple and clear.
To be simple use it in such way that it makes your writing easy to read, the number and places don’t matters if it makes your story fun to read.
“The time when your sentence feels crowdie is the time when you need to break them apart by commas.”
Be You, Not Someone Else
“The copied version can never be the better than the original one.”
You need to be yourself. You need to write in your voice, because that’s what will make you a writer. You need your own sense of things, you need your own sync of words, you need your own rhythm, your own opinions, and your own view on life. You can’t be like others because you are different and you know that.
If you try to be like someone else, write like someone else then in then end you’ll end up alone because they won’t be there. You’ll be lost because you don’t know who you are, what makes you different all you’ve ever known is how you look in someone else clothing. You’ve always viewed yourself as him, you’ve acted like mirror copy, but reality breaks you apart and after breaking, you only got one option left be yourself and make a difference.
“A fake will never be better than original, but a fake with more power can be more dangerous than the real thing.”
I hope you got what I’m trying to say.
I’m saying, “Don’t copy, but learn from copy and turn it into your own.”
“Despite making mistakes, I’m closer to the real thing than anyone else who’s not even trying.”
Doing anything involves mistakes too. Tons of them, all you can do is turn them into an experience to learn something from them, because being good involves climbing over the mistakes you’ve made. Although everyone knows, ‘its mistakes that makes us grow’, but still there are people who ignores them.
It’s your mistakes that make you wise. There will be no future for you if you don’t make mistakes, because your life comes from the mistakes you make.
“You confidence not comes from always being right, it comes from knowing you are right because you already tested out every wrong possibility.”
Same goes to writing, we spilled ink then we use new paper to write.
We all are crafted by our mistakes; if you’ve never made one then you are not well structured.
Writing is like any other art, the more you practice the better you get, and the more you fall the more you learn how to hold yourself together.
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