No, I’m not against helping people and I’ll never be; but sometimes I don’t help others. Yes, it’s absolutely true. I don’t help everyone. Sometimes, even if I want to help someone I don’t help. I don’t give him any kind of advises and I also don’t help him to get his work done. But why?
As a blogger my main duty is to help others because blogging means helping, but even then I sometimes don’t help others. Why?
Is it that I discriminate between people?
No, it’s not that I discriminate between people. Like, helping the one from whom I’ll get benefits and not helping others from whom I’ll not get anything. It’s not true. I help everyone I can but sometimes I just don’t.
Again, it’s also not true that I don’t help my competitors. I help them as well without thinking anything. But sometimes I don’t.
I know that you’re continuously reading this article to know the reason why I don’t help everyone, but before that I want to tell you something.
I want you to do something. What’s that?
I want you to stop helping everyone, even if you want to.
No, I’m not kidding. I mean it. You really should stop helping everyone, even if you want to help them.
Look friend, helping someone is not a bad thing. In life, I’ve learnt that if we help someone then that means we are educating someone, which is a very noble deed. Teaching or helping someone is always a good idea. I’ll rather say that it’s a great work.
But, should we help someone even if we don’t know what he is talking about?
I mean, if someone asks you for a help but you don’t know much about the thing he is talking about, then should you try to help him?
Of course, not.
I hope you got my point. If not, continue reading. And if you’ve got the point, then definitely continue reading…
As I said, helping someone is always a great idea and when we help someone it builds a good relation and also builds some trust.
Well, I never help to get benefits, but it’s true that when we help someone we gain some hope that one day they may also help us when we will need their help.
But, what if you tried to help someone but made everything worse?
You went up to help someone, then made it worse. You messed up everything. Again, you also lifted your hands up by saying that now you can’t do anything about it. Then you told that you don’t know much about it and you also don’t know what step should be taken to fix everything that happened.
Oh! Lord. What will be your image in front of that guy now?
Man, if you didn’t knew anything then why you agreed to help? (That guy will think like this.)
He will also blame himself that why he ever asked you for a help. And in future he will never ask you for a help. He may still keep a good relation with you but he will never trust you like he would have.
Funny things that I see in the blogosphere.
In blogging, I’ve seen many bloggers who themselves have just started a new blog and now are trying to help others in making a success blog. I ask, did they achieve success?
I again see some bloggers who don’t know about a topic but are trying to write posts and guides on that. Silly huh?
And what makes me laugh and also angry is that, some bloggers who have not yet earned a single penny from blogging shouts out that they can teach others how to make a living online. Man, how to make a living? Really?
They write articles like “How to make $1000 in a month?” Is it a joke??
People who are aware about these bloggers will directly ignore them, but those who don’t know will follow what they said. But, will they reap any benefits? No, never.
I ask, how can you expect a great masterpiece from a new-born painter?
Or, how can you expect a perfectly designed furniture from an unskilled carpenter?
So, my main point is that we should never help everyone, even if we want to.
So, when we should help someone and when we shouldn’t?
Yes, we should help people but only when we are expert in that field, or at least when we know a lot about the topic. We shouldn’t help someone when we don’t know anything about the matter. Rather, we should send that person to someone else who is expert in that field. When the person will get the help he will thank both of you and will always remember you for helping him.
So now you got what I wanted to say. And here my article almost ends…
Summarizing my article in a few points:
- Always help the needy ones and never expect something in return.
- Never try to help someone with a thing about which you don’t know much.
- When you can’t help, stop giving advice and suggest them to take help from others.
- If you still want to help someone, suggest them to consult Mr.X, who is expert in that field.
- If you’ve no experience in blogging then stop teaching how to blog as it hurts a blogger’s reputation.
- Never blog about what you don’t know or what has not yet been proved by someone popularly known.
- When you can’t explain something in your articles, link to other articles which carry detailed info about the topic.
So this is what I wanted to share in this article of mine. My article don’t just relate to bloggers and blogging but to everyone. I hope you liked it and agree with my point. Do let me know your views about it. If you agree with my point then do vote for me as I’m also taking part in the guest blogging contest happening over here.
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